I randomly decided to stop at a beauty place today that I don't normally go to while waiting for my sister, eyebrows needed a tidy up. The beautician and I moaned about the Zen music playing. I then mentioned the annoying music in my prenatal yoga DVD i had while doing IVF. She asked how many cycles. When I said 3 unsuccessful she said please don't give up. She has had a real run of it, lots of cysts, operations, blocked tube, missing ovary and told at 21 yrs old she was unlikely to ever get pregnant. She gave up for years, went overseas and went to hospital with what she thought was appendix pain and told her she is as pregnant but is was ectopic and probably wouldn't survive. Shes now 7 months along. Miracles do happen. I had started to give up on the thought that it might actually happen for me. I think her and I were suppose to meet today.
So it has been a while. The past few months have been tough. We have been a bit mad and a bit sad. Just trying to deal with it the best we can. Between work, study and family we have been kept busy which is a good thing. Choosing not to think about it right now.
We have booked the most amazing trip away for a couple of nights for our 10th wedding anniversary and hoping to sit in the quiet in the bush somewhere and make some decisions. We are attending an Information Evening with Child, Youth and Family in the new year to talk about Adoption and Home for Life options so we have all cards on the table.
This year has been pretty challenging so I'm looking forward to a new year. I will endeavor to blog more as it helps to organise my thoughts.
Merry Xmas. Number 13 just DH and I. Can't wait till its over just like every year. Bah Humbug.
So our review went well. Everyone was a bit bummed about our second BFN as they all had high hopes as the meds and egg retrievals seem to go quite well. We all agreed that once again our embryo's were not developing well enough to survive. Time to find out why.
We had chromosomal tests done that afternoon which took several weeks to come back but I'm glad to say there are no chromosomes missing. Thank christ for that, not sure how we would of taken that news. Next is DH's sperm DNA test, that will be in the new year. We just need a break for now, from it all.
Counselling really helped and made us feel less guilty about being mad, jealous and sad. We have every right to feel this way, everyone in our situation does, its only those who have been there that truly understand how infertility feels. Would recommend even if you think you don't need it, you really actually do. It helps to talk about it with someone that knows these situations all too well. She was very helpful, we even talked to her about our feelings about Adoption, Home for Life and our past experiences with fostering.
We are taking some time out. Lots going on at the moment. just need to breathe for a while.
